I find that my need for control has only grown since burying my daughter. I hunger for the peace of mind that I have done everything possible to protect my loved ones from whatever complications the day could present.
Life is not conforming to my plan.
Maybe that's the point... to let go.
But I don't like it.
Recently, I missed work for the first time because of my disease. It was humbling and frightening. I have fought hard. I have trudged to dozens of appointments, complied with every treatment, pushed through days of pain and not wanting to get out of bed, all with the desperate hope that I can control this instead of it
Mark had faithfully tended to me through the night, bringing my medicine, quietly letting me squeeze the circulation from his hand through the pain, and offering words of comfort and encouragement when I didn't want to breathe through another minute. I was at the mercy of my body and my sickness, and it terrified me.
They have cried with me, snuggled up beside me, and whispered earnest prayers for healing. I will never forget the disappointed sweetness on Jacob's face when we were supposed to go out on a Mommy/Son date and I felt terrible that day. Trying to hide his discouragement, he said, "that's OK
|Always a tender heart|
I am struggling to accept that the things I imagined for my future are being reshaped by this new normal. Right now I am fighting with letting go. It is a hard battle, one that in reality probably every person struggles with in some way.
People try to give comfort by saying "God won't give you more than you can handle." Have you heard it? Have you asked where He said that? He didn't. So maybe when I reach the point of being burdened beyond my strength, when I am empty and have nothing left, when I reach the point of giving up...maybe that's when His strength will be seen in me.
I am terrified to get to that point... but I am thankful beyond words for my faithful team that is here to walk through it with me.
"Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart."
Time for more patient waiting, and less kicking and screaming. Oh boy. That's not my strong suit. Please pray me through it, and my poor family and friends who have to put up with me along the way.
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